Well, sure Having the potential and using it are different things though, y'know? If it didn't feel safe for you to act a certain way, you wouldn't have even if you had the 'potential' to do better like
I'm not saying you weren't a dillhole because, well, obviously you were but it also wasn't just... all you? if that makes sense?
one thing I've learned, at least, is that some of the way I acted before here was because I wasn't in a place I felt safe to break free of that so maybe it's, like, similar for you you acted that way because the alternative to not doing so was too scary or dangerous maybe I don't know I don't know your life or anything, just
that's something that helped me to realize, in the end some of it was me, sure, and being too afraid to act better but some of it was if I had tried, I think I'd have had to deal with even worse consequences than just... going along with things even if that meant being shitty sometimes
cw: abusive situations
Having the potential and using it are different things though, y'know?
If it didn't feel safe for you to act a certain way, you wouldn't have
even if you had the 'potential' to do better
like
I'm not saying you weren't a dillhole because, well, obviously
you were
but it also wasn't just... all you? if that makes sense?
one thing I've learned, at least, is that some of the way I acted before here was because I wasn't in a place I felt safe to break free of that
so maybe it's, like, similar for you
you acted that way because the alternative to not doing so was too scary or dangerous maybe
I don't know
I don't know your life or anything, just
that's something that helped me to realize, in the end
some of it was me, sure, and being too afraid to act better
but some of it was if I had tried, I think I'd have had to deal with even worse consequences than just... going along with things
even if that meant being shitty sometimes